Preparing for a Funeral at Gerringong Anglican Church

Grief and Commemoration

Although every individual has a different experience of grief, soon after the death of a loved one, some people feel lost amongst the many important decisions that have to be made. We hope that these pages will help you to map your way through, or at least point you in the right direction, during this very difficult time. Do not hesitate to ring us at any time – a member of the Ministry Team can provide advice and/or pastoral care, according to your need, at any appointed time.

Every funeral service or memorial service is an important occasion. At Gerringong Anglican Church, we have a great deal of experience in conducting and planning funeral and memorial services. We seek to balance the interests of the bereaved family, the funeral company as well as that of our Christian community. The funeral service provides a public opportunity for people to express their grief; extend sympathy to the bereaved; to honour the person who has died; and to be reminded of the Christian truth and the hope and consolation it offers.

Funeral Director / Undertaker

When someone dies, one of the first things the next of kin is asked to do is to contact a funeral director. This can be a confronting experience, but the choice is an important one. Although you can change funeral directors at any time, it is usual that the same firm will be engaged to provide the following services:

  • remove the physical remains of the person who has died to another place, awaiting whatever funeral rites are to be held;
  • seek a death certificate from the relevant authorities;
  • place a death and/or funeral notice in the newspaper;
  • the family of the person who has died in planning funeral rites (e.g. finding, recommending and/or booking a venue; organising flowers; providing cars and drivers; providing a coffin or casket; finding a venue to provide post-funeral hospitality; booking caterers etc.);
  • help the chief mourners in thinking about burial or cremation, and organising for their wishes to be carried out, including (where applicable) returning cremated remains to the family for interment, or laying them to rest in some other way.

If you have not engaged the services of a funeral director before, we can provide you with some advice if requested.

Time, Day and Date

Once in touch with a funeral director, they will make a time to meet with the next of kin to discuss the funeral arrangements. There is no set number of days which should elapse between someone’s death and their funeral, and no set day of the week or time that a funeral should be held.

At Gerringong Anglican, we are unable to hold funerals on any Sunday or public holiday, and likewise the week before Easter and the week straddling Christmas Day (25 December).

There is no need to rush to select a date – indeed funerals can be delayed to allow for family members to fly in from overseas, or to assist in the grieving process. The funeral director will help you make such decisions.

If you plan to have a funeral at Gerringong Anglican (and this ministry is open to all, whether regular or not-so-regular churchgoers!), the funeral director will contact us initially to check for available times and dates, organise a time for the family of the person who has died to meet with us, and then will usually hand arrangements for the service itself over to us.

Please don’t go ahead with any firm arrangements without consultation with one of our ministers first.


We will arrange for one of our ministers to be the Officiant at the funeral. Clergy of other denominations are not able to officiate at funerals at Gerringong Anglican; however if appropriate they may be invited to assist in the service.

Funerals and memorials must conform to the Service set out in ‘The Book of Common Prayer (1662)’; ‘An Australian Prayer Book (1978)’; or other authorised Diocesan sources; the details of which will be discussed as required at your interview with the Officiant.


Unless you wish to have no music at the funeral, an organist appointed by us will play. If you would like alternate musicians to be used, all music performed at the funeral and those performing it must first be approved by the Officiant.

Unfortunately, due to the short period of time which is usually available to prepare for the funeral, it may not always be possible to fulfil all your requirements. Please understand that non-sacred music is more suited to

a non-liturgical funeral rite (such as a wake) than at the service. It is not necessary to have hymns, but if you believe one would be appropriate (and that the congregation will sing it), please discuss this with the Officiant.

A list of suitable hymns is provided below.

Printing Orders of Service

The order of service is planned in consultation with the minister involved with the service and needs to be approved by him. For this reason, please do not begin any printing until the minister has given approval. We can arrange for copies of a special Order of Service to be printed for you.

Tributes or Eulogies

In recent times eulogies have become common in funerals. A Christian funeral service seeks to honour the dead within the context of a corporate act of worship, the focus of which is to honour God, who created us all and in the life of Jesus Christ extends His love to all. There is a place for carefully written and well considered statements recording the contribution that the deceased has made in his/her lifetime. It is not an occasion for expressions of personal grief or inappropriate evaluations of the character of the deceased. Our experience is that it is unhelpful to have more than one person delivering the eulogy/tribute.

We recommend that the family prepares a brief summary of the life and qualities of the person who has died and then appoints one of their number, or somebody to represent them, who is used to public speaking, to read it at the service. This may be formal or informal in style, but should reflect the nature of the person who has died as well as the solemnity of the occasion. We also recommend that the eulogy be written out in full, so that if the person appointed to deliver it becomes overly upset and unable to continue, someone else may read it. If the family wish, the Officiant could help here, or even read the tribute on behalf of the family. Other tributes are often best left to a less formal, non-liturgical gathering, such as the post-funeral hospitality, or a quiet family gathering.


A list of suitable Bible readings for funerals is provided below. You will need to select one or two most appropriate for your service. Again, this will be discussed at your interview.


It is customary for the minister to deliver a short address at the appointed time in the service.


Our church already is provided with attractive floral arrangements, so no extra flowers are required. If, however, you have some special requests, you should discuss this with the funeral director and with the Officiant. Floral tributes sent to the church will be placed near the main entrance. The funeral director will ask you what you would like done with them following the service.

Post-Service Hospitality

The parish hall is available as a venue for hospitality after the funeral. We have a team in our church community who can provide some light refreshments, or we can put you in touch with local caterers. Please discuss this with the Officiant at your interview.

Car Parking

There are two sites on our property available for on-site parking. If more parking is required, there is often street parking nearby and several free car-parks within 100 metres of the church.

Funeral Costs

The ministers ask for no fee for their role. A donation towards any costs to the church for catering, printing, etc can be discussed with the Officiant at your interview.

After the Funeral

A member of our Ministry Team, often the Officiant at the funeral, is available to continue the funeral ministry at the graveside or crematorium if requested.

Please discuss your wishes with the Minister.

Selected Bible Readings for Funerals

If you do not own a bible, various online sites allow you to search and display Bible texts. The translation of the bible read at Gerringong Anglican Church is the New International Version. Here is provided the most recognisable sections of the readings:

Psalm 23

‘The Lord is my shepherd: therefore can I lack nothing.’ …

Psalm 46

‘God is our refuge and strength: a very present help in trouble.’ ...

Psalm 90

‘Lord, you have been our refuge: from one generation to another.’ ...

Psalm 121

‘I lift up my eyes to the hills: but where shall I find help?’ ...

Psalm 139:1-11

‘O Lord, you have searched me out and known me:’ ...

Ecclesiastes 3:1-15, 17:1-2

‘For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

a time to be born, and a time to die;’ ...

Isaiah 65:17-25

‘For I am about to create new heavens and a new earth; the former things shall not be remembered or come to mind.’ ...

Matthew 5:1-12a

‘When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.’ ...

Mark 10:13-16

‘People were bringing little children to him in order that he might touch them; and the disciples spoke sternly to them. But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, “Let the little children come to me; do not stop them;’ ...

John 6:35-40

‘Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.’ ...

John 11:17-27

‘I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.’ ...

John 14:1-6

‘Do not let your hearts be troubled. Believe in God, believe also in me.  In my Father’s house there are many dwelling-places.’ ...

John 20:11-18

‘Mary Magdalene said to them, ‘They have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid him.’ When she had said this, she turned round and saw Jesus standing there, but she did not know that it was Jesus.’ ...

Romans 6:3-9

‘Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? Therefore we have been buried with him by baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life.’ ...

Romans 8:1-11

‘If the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who lives in you.’ ...

Romans 8:18-27

‘I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.’ ...

Romans 8:28-39

‘For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.’ ...

1 Corinthians 13

‘Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.’ ...

1 Corinthians 15

Listen, I will tell you a mystery! We will not all die, but we will all be changed,

in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed.  For this perishable body must put on imperishability, and this mortal body must put on immortality.’ ...

Philippians 4:4-9

‘Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.’ ...

Revelation 21:1-7

‘Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more.’ ...

Selected Hymns for Funerals

If you do not own a hymn book, various online sites allow you to search and display hymn texts, and hear their tunes. Some well-known and loved hymns are:

A safe stronghold  our God is still

Abide with me, fast falls the eventide

All hail the power of Jesus’ Name

All the way my Saviour leads me

Amazing grace, how sweet the sound

And can it be

At the name of Jesus, every knee shall bow

Be thou my vision, O Lord of my heart

Before the throne of God above

Crown Him with many crowns

Dear Lord and Father of mankind

Do not be afraid, I am with you

Fight the good fight

For all the saints who from their labours rest

From heaven You came, helpless babe

Glorious things of Thee are spoken

God is love, let heav’n adore him

God is our strength and refuge

God moves in a mysterious way

Great is Thy faithfulness, O God my Father

Guide me, O my great Redeemer

Halleluia! Sing to Jesus

Holy, Holy, Holy, Lord God Almighty

How deep the Father’s love for us

How firm a foundation

How sweet the name of Jesus sounds

I cannot tell

I heard the voice of Jesus say

I know that my Redeemer lives

I lift my eyes to the quiet hills

I’ll praise my maker while I’ve breath

I’m not ashamed to own my Lord

Immortal, invisible, God only wise

In Christ alone my hope is found

In heavenly love abiding

Jesus is Lord! Creation’s voice proclaims it

Jesus loves me, this I know

Jesus, lover of my soul

Jesus, the Name high over all

Just as I am, without one plea

Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us

Love divine, all loves excelling

Make way, make way

May the mind of Christ my Saviour

Meekness and majesty

My hope is built on nothing less

Nearer, my God, to Thee

Now thank we all our God

O God, our help in ages past

O Jesus, I have promised

O Lord my God, when I in awesome wonder (How great thou art)

O the deep, deep love of Jesus

Praise, my soul, the King of heaven

Rejoice, the Lord is King!

Rock of ages, cleft for me

Teach me Thy way, O Lord

The Day Thou gavest, Lord, is ended

The King of love my shepherd is

The Lord’s my shepherd, I’ll not want

There is a higher throne

There is a Redeemer

Thine be the glory, risen, conquering Son

What a friend we have in Jesus

When I survey the wondrous cross

When peace like a river

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